ROY TABIOS
for my family, especially the young ones who never met your uncle Roy Tabios (Sept. 24, 1958-March 1, 1980) I've rarely written about my brother Roy. I rarely wrote because it hurts and, in my writings (so far), he inevitably evokes loss. Roy died prematurely at age 21 in a car accident. His death is among the biggest losses my family experienced in the diaspora because there was no reason for it – an accident. His death aborted a whole life of possibilities yet to even start to unfold. I feel the loss of his possibility keenly, in part because he was so intelligent and yet so reticent: a likely late bloomer who never got enough time. Our other brothers, with whom he spent more time as we grew up, likely will have different points of view as regards Roy. But for me, I felt reticence, even as I know that it would have been temporary. With more time, I know we could have created together a wonderful relationship. In fact, we connected as two individuals seeing